i have a personal problem

[marc goldberg]

me and my girl freind have been dating for a year now. weve been very sexually active for a while and i love her so much. ive never had this problem for the entire year until recently. its happend occasionaly where i couldnt get it up and a few times that its happend my girl freind has got really mad at me becuase it hurts her she thinks that since i cant get it up that she doesnt turn me on anymore which isnt true at all. she always does turn me on. but recently i got this fear that if i cant get it up, she will get mad at me and for a few days now weve tried and it went up and we started doing stuff and a few minutes later it went back down. it fustrates her and i and im scared im not satisfying her anymore. im 18 years old and its really embarssing. do i have a serious problem? or is it all in my head? how do i get that fear and thought out of my head?

[Kita]

I don't mean to set the alarm bells off here, but if it just started this year you might want to get medical advice.

Other reasons for not maintaining a hard on include stress, too much alcohol, and thinking too much during sex.

[Michael C.]

It could be a medical thing, but I doubt it from what you have said so far. So chances are, you just need to relax. Try enjoying sensually feeling each others bodies, rubbing pleasurable areas that don't include genitals. Don't think about what could happen, but think in the moment and let everything build up into lust for one another. Express how you feel about her, but don't think do much as it would redirect the blood flow. =] Hope this helps. Let me know if you need any more advice.

[Robert Friedman]

I agree with Kita, you might be thinking too much about it. Sometimes, your desire goes down after having sex with someone for some time. I would also recommend you talk to your physician about this. I had anxiety about getting it up for my partner, were both happy now. Also, minor note, I don't know what your diet is like but eating more fruits and veggies plus taking vitamins made a small but noticable difference in my sexual desire.