hey... another question.

[Aaron A.]

Hey ppl. I hope nobody thinks I'm a dick. Especially after my last form question.


1. She doesnt last long or care about getting me off after she cums.

3. Her perspective on sex is usually all about love and stuff, but I'm not necesarilyl concerned about it as love, I just wanna enjoy it.

4. Instead of being willing to try something out, she's hesitant to do anything besides vaginal. As long a she's being satasfied she'll do it. And no she doesnt wanna do 69's.

5. It takes so much for me to try to get her to try something more than once.

I dunno. I'm gonna spend da nite with her Friday and I dont know what to do. I dont know if I even find her suxually attractive. And she doesnt wanna dress feminine. But its who she is that keeps me to be honest. Underneath the problems is the girl I feel in love with n I cant replace.

but I kinda dont wanna be in this unfullfilled and have her get all the best parts of this whole thing. Its kinda selfish.

[Chelsea Marie]

talking to her about might clear things up a bit. maybe she just thinks you like it.. she is probably jsut scared and maybe you need to take it slower? love and support while urging her to try new things is good.

[Anna Clark]

A healthy sexual relationship is about mutual affection, about reciprocity and joy--if it's consistently weighted towards one person, the other person can't help feeling used and perhaps resentful. So I appreciate your concerns.

You might find more advice on how to manage this situation over at Scarleteen's busy message boards: www.scarleteen.com. Real good people there, real practical/honest discussion about all the mixed-up stuff that goes along with sex.

Good luck!

[Anna Clark]

... in fact, I just found this: "Reciprocity, Reloaded"

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/read/reciprocity_reloaded

[Kita]

"Nobody 'owes' anyone sex. We don’t lend and borrow sex like we lend and borrow money or our favorite sweaters." -Scarleteen

I was going to say it, and got beat to it. While I don't question your great loyalty and devotion as a boyfriend, I do think that if she doesn't want to experiment and doesn't feel quite comfortable enough to try new things quite yet- stop talking to her about it!!! It's only going to make you look like an a**hat. Trust me. You're going to become the guy "that only wanted sex".

Let her grow into her sexuality on her own terms and in her own time. She's not where you are yet... give her a break. She'll get there eventually.